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Calendar reminder in particular.

My sister’s older daughter would have been 11 years old this year.
I make a donation to the children’s hospital where she was cared for (she died shortly after she was born from complications during delivery) and sometimes I send a card or a balloon. But I always send a text and we always use my niece’s name.
My sister-in-law’s son died at the same hospital at 9 months from a genetic condition – we do the same for in his name.
My children are 6 and 3, we make sure they know they have cousins they will not be able to meet. This includes these missing children in our family and we make sure we share with them.

In the early days, meals, gift cards for restaurants (ordering in). Hospital parking passes (as applicable) and like so many others have said – use their names.