Sophie18462

Before we had a kid, I saw a ted talk that described pre kid life as a line on a chart, fairly flat, in the middle, some ups and downs but nothing major. Then post kid – the line becomes very spikey, with much deeper lows and much higher highs. This has really rung true for me. The bad and challenging times are harder, and they are perhaps more frequent (at least in the 0-3 years where we are now), but the highs are also more frequent, and higher – the joy of seeing your child doing new things is really spectacular. We felt a bit flat and middle-y before, and wanted more of a challenge, and I think that is what we got, more challenge but more rewards too. It’s not for everyone, and if you are someone who needs that flat middle, then kids might not be for you. We have child free friends who just would not thrive with kids. Everyone is different. Oh and I am only having one!!