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Remember that we’re playing the long game. You’re not going to get instant (or even consistent) compliance from a 2 year old. But maintaining firm, loving boundaries and allowing them to have their feelings while learning the consequences of inappropriate actions is exactly what needs to happen.

Woe: I feel like my 4 year old gets the short end of the stick because so much of my time is taken up meeting the needs of our infant. It’s improving somewhat as the baby gets older but it’s so hard to balance.

Friendships with child-free friends have not survived us having kids. It’s just a huge gap to cross. There is something really gratifying and comforting in having lunch with a friend, both of you with your kid(s), and feeling free to step away from the conversation to handle something kid-related and get back to it when you can. The fact that you can both pay 50% of your attention to each other and be okay with that because each of you understands why the other 50% is elsewhere is priceless.