Tay45

I also highly recommend working through The Baby Decision book with your partner. I kept saying I didn’t know if I wanted to have a baby and I was getting so frustrated living in limbo, not sure how to make longer term plans in case we decided to have a baby. We went into it like “whatever this book spits out at the end, that is our final answer.” Well, not even halfway through, I told me husband we had to stop doing the book because I was terrified that it would say we shouldn’t have a child and I didn’t want that outcome—-ha! So, I’m not sure if it was the book, or the definitive nature that we had agreed to accept the book’s outcome, but I uncovered, and committed, to wanting a child. (We have a 9 month old now and my husband and I are happier than we ever imagined.) It was years of turmoil trying to decide though—sending you strength!!