taylor

Like the other commenters said, ultimately this is a very personal choice and I believe your intuition will lead you to the best decision for you. As with everything I’m learning about parenting so far, what works or doesn’t work for others is often not a reflection of what works for you. I’m also reminded of one of Emily’s posts about how to make a decision that could be worth a look.

I wasn’t sure whether I wanted kids for my entire life – until I was. Something changed in me and I became very sure (many life circumstances changed and I worked hard on my personal growth to lead to this moment). Now that I have a 9mo, I am really glad that I had that conviction before having the baby. My partner and I had a lot of discussion and preparation over the course of about 6 months after I decided I wanted to have a baby. I’m glad for that too.

Ultimately for us, this has, so far, been really hard, and there was a time where I thought our relationship wouldn’t make it. I love my baby more than anything else in the entire universe, and I’m also glad that I went into this KNOWING this is what I wanted. In those hard moments, I’m glad I don’t look back and think, I should have listened to my gut. Instead, I think: this is a hard moment, it’s going to pass, and I love her and have so much to look forward to.