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My aunts asked “are you loving being a mom?!” I started crying and said not really. These experienced moms emphatically said together “oh of course you aren’t!!!”

I needed to know it was ok that I wasn’t loving this. I was so depressed and therefore not bonding with my baby. It took me a year (and stopping breastfeeding) to feel the way that I thought I’d feel the second they put her on my chest: that unconditional and almost obsessive love. I think I needed to know that Hollywood moment doesn’t always happen but it really would grow over time.