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Even though they were well-intentioned, I didn’t need vague “check-in” texts from friends or family. Instead, I appreciated proactive messages and help, like “Can we drop off some breakfast sandwiches tomorrow? We’ll only stop by for a few minutes.” Or, “I sent you a $50 Grubhub gift card for a meal.” Or, “Let us know when we can come by and do laundry, take out the trash, walk the dog, or any other chores.”

Before I delivered our baby, two new moms had told me about their struggles with breastfeeding and how they got over the shame around not doing it. This helped me make the sanity-saving decision to do formula after a traumatic emergency c-section and NICU stay. If I had tried to breastfeed, I really think I’d have a breakdown on top of everything.