Should I Ignore Birth Spacing Advice to Have Kids Younger?

Emily Oster

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Should I Ignore Birth Spacing Advice to Have Kids Younger?

Q&A on the risk tradeoffs

Emily Oster

2 min Read

I know from Expecting Better that the risk of Down syndrome, autism, etc. goes up with age. On the flip side, when trying to plan for a second child, I read that one should wait 18 to 24 months to reduce the risks of premature birth, schizophrenia, autism, etc. How valid are these risks? How do they compare to the risks of my womb being an extra year older if I wait the full two years instead of just one year?

—Confused Womb Optimizer

This question highlights the concept of trade-offs better than almost anything I can imagine. In our quest to optimize (in many parenting domains), we are faced with the reality that sometimes it is literally impossible to do two things that are both “optimal.”

I cannot both spend an hour cooking a nutritious meal full of vegetables that my child will eat and spend the hour playing with them in an engaged manner with our Montessori-approved wooden toys. My child cannot both sleep 10 hours a night and also do all of the extracurricular activities that are apparently optimal for their development.

And you cannot both wait longer between children and also have your child sooner. Literally impossible!

The good news in your case is that this trade-off mostly goes one way. The primary concern about very short birth intervals is prematurity — the evidence base for other risks you mention are very low — and the change in prematurity risk is limited and the results are not obviously causal. In other words: the downsides to a shorter birth interval seem to be mostly theoretical.

On the other hand, it is definitely true that waiting longer both makes it harder to get pregnant and increases the risk of chromosomal issues. However: it is worth noting that these changes are also small. There is no age cliff here, despite what some people think. So waiting a bit longer doesn’t alter risks very much.

In the end, as I’ve probably said before, the main consideration in when to have another child should be when it works for your family. You can find your own optimal.

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With this in mind, it’s worth asking why this recommendation continues at all — or at least why the AAP doesn’t push it back to four months. They say decreased arousals from sleep are linked to SIDS, which could mean that babies sleeping in their own room is risky. But this link is extremely indirect, and they do not show direct evidence to support it.

According to the data we have, parents should sleep in the same room as a baby for as long as it works for them! Sharing a room with a child may have negative impacts on both child and adult sleep. We should give families more help in navigating these trade-offs and making the decisions that work best for them.

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With this in mind, it’s worth asking why this recommendation continues at all — or at least why the AAP doesn’t push it back to four months. They say decreased arousals from sleep are linked to SIDS, which could mean that babies sleeping in their own room is risky. But this link is extremely indirect, and they do not show direct evidence to support it.

According to the data we have, parents should sleep in the same room as a baby for as long as it works for them! Sharing a room with a child may have negative impacts on both child and adult sleep. We should give families more help in navigating these trade-offs and making the decisions that work best for them.

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I’m here to remind you to take a deep breath and trust yourself. I’ll be here to support you along the way.

Thank you to everyone who submitted videos, including:
@sarah.consoli
@jess_lynn627
@nicolevandenwills
@thedrblair
@ncbenedict29
@haleycimini
@iamkellysnodgrass
@calesse_smith
@garnet__gordon
@jencoopgaiser87
@danigirl18c
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@carly_comber
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